How Foolish Can We Get (Part 2) - The Trap

How Foolish Can We Get (Part 2) - The Trap


There's a kind of monkey trap that's being used :

A coconut is dug out and attached by a rope to a tree or stick in the ground.

At the bottom of the coconut a small slit is made and some sweet food is placed inside.

The hole at the bottom of the coconut is just big enough for a monkey to slide in his open hand, but does not allow for a closed fist to pass out.

The monkey smells the sweets, reaches in with his hand to grasp the food but is unable to withdraw it cos the clenched fist can't pass through the opening.

When the hunters arrive, the monkey becomes frantic yet he can't run away.

If you think about it -

There is no one keeping that monkey captive, except the force of its own greed and attachment.

All that it needs to do is open its hand.

But so strong is the force of greed in the monkey mind that only a rare monkey will be able to let go.

Do you think the monkey is stupid/foolish?

If you think the monkey is stupid/foolish,

Then Remember -

That's how you are ..............

When you can't/refuse to let go!



"Holding on is not just about physical material things;

But also about the holding on to Fixed/False Views, Ignorance, Grudges, Anger and Hate, Power, Fame and Fortune,

Which is just as bad, if not worse."



"The practice of Dhamma is to change our attitude towards Life and to give up attachment to worldly concerns."




"The more we are unattached to the happiness of this life,

The more we will have happy peaceful lives."




* (Note : By the way, this entry is NOT to encourage anyone to use the above method to trap monkeys or any other beings, cos' that's an inhumane thing to do.)

How Foolish Can We Get (Part 1) - Super Power or Super Ignorant?

How Foolish Can We Get (Part 1) - Super Power or Super Ignorant?


One day, while the Buddha was sitting by the bank of a river, he met an ascetic who had practised austerities for about 25 years.

Seeing the Buddha, the ascetic immediately demonstrated and exhibited his prowess by crossing the river back and forth, walking on water.

Looking at the ascetic, The Buddha asked, "How long did it take you to acquire such powers?"

"25 years," came the haughty reply.

The ascetic was pleased that he caught the Buddha's attention.

"Wow! That's a long time ........" said The Buddha.

"Of course!"

"Is that what you had received for all your years of effort?" The Buddha asked again.

"Yes!" The ascetic proudly replied, that now at last, he could cross the river by walking on water.

To that, The Enlightened One said, "Hmmm ....... But for all your years of effort and hard work, this gain is insignificant, since anyone can cross the river using a ferry for a fare of one penny!"

"A little power soon goes to the head of one who's not used to it."

- The Buddha



"There is no miracle as great as the miracle of a wicked man transformed."



"A person who's still subjected to greed, anger and delusion and have access to unusual power will NOT only bring harm to himself, BUT also to the society at large."



"Psychic abilities are merely gifts which we all have.

If you have them, it's because you just happen to discover yours earlier than others due to your past diligent practice and good kamma (deeds).

It does not mean you are special or have special abilities."




"When you constantly try to impress others with your knowledge, powers, abilities, skills, talents etc, you are like a monkey performing tricks to and for the amusement of others."



"You can have all the visualisations, symbols, powers etc.

But with no real comprehension and realisation of The Dhamma (Truth),

You can and will never be enlighten;

Neither will you have wisdom or find real true happiness."



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"Let us begin the new Lunar year with a little more wisdom and less foolishness and ignorance.


Have a Happy Lunar New Year everyone!

Live, Love, Laugh and be Happy Always!







With all My Love and Kindness (Metta)

Maitre-light :)

Baking a cake

Baking a cake

A monastic used the simile of baking a cake to explain about karma and what we do with our life.

He mentioned that some people had the top grade, highest and best quality of ingredients, yet they bake an awful cake.

While others who have the worst possible kind of ingredients, yet they bake a delicious cake.

Some people are very fortunate, yet they still complain that life is unfair to them, mistreated them.

They don't appreciate, or are grateful with what they have, and they make a mess out of it.

Yet there are others who make use of the little and limited ingredients that they have, and are happy, contented and successful.



I don't have good ingredients, too.

As a matter of fact, some of my ingredients were so bad.

But I never lament on those ingredients.

I'm only grateful that I have them.

Cos' there are others who don't even have the necessary ingredients to work with.

I won't say my cake is fantastically delicious of fanciful.

But I know at least it's simple and edible.



Forget about other people's cake.

Avoid being so concern about their cake.


What about your cake?

What does it taste like?






"Man himself is responsible for his own happiness and misery.

He creates his own heaven and hell.

He is master of his own destiny, child of his past and parent of his future."

- Sayadaw U Thittila







"Life is what we make out of it - we are responsible for everything in our life."







"Success is not due to luck.

You determine what your luck is.

That means : You determine if you succeed or not."







"To understand and endure suffering is to end suffering.

To enjoy and spend blessings is to end blessings."







"Endurance is one of the most difficult disciplines.

But it is to the one who endures that the final victory comes."

- The Buddha







"Karma is not fixed.

Karma can be changed."





"G-Plan (God's plan) ?

How about your plan?"

"We are our own master.

Our future depends entirely on ourselves.

Nobody can take care of our future lives;

And the present rests on our own shoulders."

- The Buddha






"According to the seed that is sown,

So is the fruit ye reap there from.

The doer of good will gather good,

The doer of evil, evil reaps.



Sown is the seed and planted well,

Thou shalt enjoy the fruit there of."

- The Buddha (Samyutta Nikaya 1 : 227)

Heaven Or Hell

Heaven Or Hell


About 5-10 years ago, while I was nursing myself back to health, I would take walks in the park.

During one of those walks, I had an insight - Heaven and Hell.

It was a simple but powerful insight.

And a timely one, too.


Cos' during that time, a very good friend of mine had a relationship issue, and every night, my friend would call me, crying and sobbing away.

So that night, when my friend called me, I decided to share my insight with my friend, to encourage my friend.

Mid-way through our conversation, when my friend paused for a few sobs, I asked my friend,

"What do you think Hell is like?"

My friend was stumped by my question.

"Terrible, awful ........" came the halting reply.

"Miserable, sad, suffering, lots of sorrows and tears, right?" I asked my friend once more.

"Yes ........", my friend was bewildered :

What was I up to? Why am I asking such questions? Where is the relevance?

Any by now, the sobs have stopped.

"You know what?! You're in Hell right now ........ Welcome to Hell !" I said cheekily to my friend.

My friend screamed at me, "M ........!" and laughed.


That was the first time in so many weeks I heard my friend laugh.

I do not know if my friend understand the insight.

But at least my friend seemed much better after that.

And I'm happy for my friend.

What is Heaven? What is or Hell?

When you live your life in pain, anger, hate, fear, suspicion, misery, jealousy, sadness, tension, stress, worries, and all the other negativity,

You are in Hell.


When you live your life with joy, happiness, peace, calm, contentment, love, kindness and all the other positivity,

You are in Heaven.


Do you want to live your life in Heaven, or in Hell?

You decide.




"Why live your live in tears and sorrows, when you can live it in laughter and joy?"




"Heaven is a place on Earth."

- Belinda Carlise

(Unfortunately, so is Hell. Heaven or Hell, it's all in the mind - YOUR mind.)





"Suffering is what we create out of ignorance;

And, Happiness is what we create out of Wisdom."




"The wise man makes his own heaven while the foolish man creates his own hell here and hereafter."

- Venerable Dr K Sri Dhammananda

"All phenomenon depends on the mind.

A Hell realm, or Heavenly Palace?

Ultimately, they are all the same."

Motherhood

Motherhood


I believe by now all of you would know that I'm a Yoga instructor.

In the course of my work, some of my students, who are parents, told me I don't understand what it is like to be a parent, cause I'm not one.

However, I disagree.



As an instructor, I feel that I'm like a mother.

And all my students, my children.

Some of them are babies, others toddlers, or much older.

And each of them get different attention and treatment from me.



It is not just about them learning what I know, but also about me knowing each one of them, and what and how much each of them can cope with.

I remembered once a student (a very good student with huge potential) asked me in class, "Why do I keep focusing on her?"

Yet another time, another student asked me after a class, "Why am I so kind and nice to one, and so 'fierce' towards another? It seems so unfair."

My reply was, "Cos' one is still a baby and the other, a child."



If you come in contact with babies before, you'll know what babies are like -

Not cute, not adorable, not pure, not innocent, not cuddly.

That's all physical.



But rather, they know NOTHING.

Yet, they think they know and understand everything.

They can't even stand, let alone crawl, yet they want to go out and play and skip with their older siblings.

They can't wait to grow up.



As I've mentioned in "Mynah and Her Nestling", in parenting, we're loving and educating our kids.

Therefore, right discipline at the right time is paramount, a necessity.

There are times when I'm firm with the 'babies', especially when the situation calls for it.

But usually, I'm stricter towards the 'children', cos' babies don't understand, but children do.



To many, it may seem and appear that I'm unfair, that I show favouritism - that I'm so kind and patient and gentle to some, and so strict and demanding on others.

In Reality, I'm just being a mother to all her children, and expressing my love for them the best way that I can.

And that is, for those who are old enough - for them to learn to be independent, and to guide each and everyone of them to reach their potential.

That's, what Motherhood is to me.





"Knowledge without moral discipline is harmful to society."

- Venerable Kanugolle Rathanasara




"Always take your time in learning things.

It's not about learning it fast, but about learning it well."

"My learning principle : Learn, Master, Perfect, Re-learn.

That way I'm always a learner, a student, a beginner.

And that also means I have no space for EGO."

Happiness, and the Path / Way to Happiness

Happiness, and the Path / Way to Happiness



Everyone wants to be happy.

No one wants to suffer.

When Gautama Buddha taught 2500 over years ago, he taught 2 things :

"I teach only 2 things - there is suffering, and there is the end of suffering."


Unfortunately, many people misunderstood (and misinterpret) the Buddha's message and all His Teachings.

They thought the Buddha teaches suffering.

That was a misconception, mis-perception, misinterpretation.

When you truly look deeply into that statement by The Great Teacher, you'll realised that what The Buddha actually teaches is Happiness and the way to Happiness.

And its formula tried and tested by me, happy little me.

It's very easy to be happy - Real, True Happiness.


I'm not talking about the superficial, physical and temporary happiness that you get when your husband or boyfriend kisses you and tells you how much he loves you, and buys you a diamond ring and flowers;

Or when you go out shopping, buying new clothes;

Or when you win a lottery;

Or when you indulge in an expensive meal.

That's all 'fake' happiness.

They don't last.


I remember when I first gave up my seat to an old folk (*generosity).

I was so happy.

I was literally over the moon.


Or, the first time I helped a blind person.

I was happy.


When I helped others (*kindness).

I feel happy.

A few weeks ago, I stroked a cat who was sitting near the bus-stop (*compassion).

It makes me so happy.

I was smiling all the way home.


When I play with any dogs, and they kiss and lick me (*love).

I feel extremely happy.

I would laugh and giggle like a kid.


I remember recently I saw a happy dog with its tail up.

I smiled while looking at the dog.

When I looked up, I saw the owner looking at me, smiling.

I returned her smile (*harmony), and continued smiling after that.


About 4-5 years ago, I found some coins lying on the gym floor.

I picked up the coins, wrapped them up in a piece of paper and handed it to the supervisor, who told me to keep it.

It was a Saturday - flag day.

I kept the coins, intending to donate it.

When I put the coins, each and every one of them into the can.

I feel so happy (*honesty).


I used to release fish.

And when I see them swimming away happily to freedom.

I feel so happy for them (*loving-kindness).


About 1-2 years ago, when I put my arms round and told an acquaintance - friend of mine who cheated me to forget the past, I felt so happy (*forgiveness).


And, whenever I see my students/participants improve, getting better, and benefiting from yoga, be it physically, mentally or emotionally, I feel very happy (*mudita - rejoicing at others' achievements).


So you see, it's very easy to be happy.

All I need to do is smile, say please and thank you, praise/compliment someone from my heart sincerely, unconditionally.

It not only motivates them but makes them happy, put a smile on their face, and that makes me happy.


Now, consider the opposite : Anger, selfishness, hate, suspicious, jealousy, fear, resentment, greed etc.

Do they make you happy?

I don't think so.

It makes a person feel awful inside, doesn't it?

And it shows on the outside as well.

Don't take my words for it.

Try it.

Or better yet, observe.

You'll notice that whenever a person genuinely helps another, or do something good, that person will smile and look happy.

There will be a radiance of happiness shining from within.

"I loving and kind, you loving and kind.

Then the whole world will be loving and kind."

If you want to be happy, then do good - Lots of it.

For "Happiness is the path to Enlightenment." (The Buddha)

**And the best way to happiness is by ...

1) Avoid harming and/or killing any beings.

2) Avoid taking what is not given - stealing.

3) Avoid sexual misconduct.

4) Avoid false speech - lying and idle chatter/gossip.

5) Avoid taking of intoxicants.

In short, Avoid ALL evil, Cultivate good and Purify the mind (i.e. Meditate)."

"When we do things for others, we are actually doing things for ourselves.

Likewise, when we do things to others, we're actually doing it to ourselves."

"Give for the joy of giving; expecting nothing in return.

And when you can give that way, You'll find Happiness."

"Give and forget that you have given; take / receive and always remember you have taken or you have received."

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"A beautiful world can only be seen through the eyes of a happy heart."

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"Our society has become one where we tend to emphasize and judge and measure others' value, worth and/or success by their wealth, status and material possessions, instead of their morals and virtues.

And this acts as a catalyst for greed, resentment, anger, discontentment and delusions, which in turns causes Suffering."

What are we going to do about it (Part 2) ... People Power

What are we going to do about it (Part 2) ... People Power


In 'Why Fight'- http://maitre-light.blogspot.com/2007/09/why-fight.html, I mentioned that earthquakes etc are 'so-called' natural disasters.

I wonder how many of the readers when reading that particular sentence questioned why do I say that?

Aren't they 'natural'?

The answer is "Yes' and "No'.

"Yes' because they seem natural.

"No' because they are not exactly and completely 'natural'.

Disasters such as earthquakes, volcano eruptions, tsunamis etc are not just results of earth tectonic plates movements, generation and degeneration,

BUT also symptoms/results of anger, enmity, hate and all the negative emotions that's expressed by Humans -

Collective anger, enmity, hate etc of Human and living beings manifesting in/through nature.


As Venerable Dr K Sri Dhammananda says, "Man can change the atmosphere of the Universe."

"If man is cruel and wicked, always living against the laws of nature and the cosmic laws; through his acts, words and thoughts, he pollutes the whole atmosphere.

As a result of such misdeeds and thoughts, nature may not produce things which man requires for his living but instead man may be faced with epidemics and various kinds of disasters."


So you see, natural disasters are not exactly and totally 'natural' after all.

I read an article in a magazine that "in this world, 850 million people are starving, yet over 1.6 billion are obese."

In 'If' - http://maitre-light.blogspot.com/2007/08/if.html, I asked, "how many clothes can we wear in a day?"

Think about it.

It's true.

Ask yourselves, "How many pairs of shoes can you wear at a time?"

Well, unless you have 8 or more pairs of feet.

We can help the world by doing little things such as buying fewer fancy clothes and eating fewer delicacies.

It's good enough that we can dress warmly and eat properly, don't you agree?

Think about all those who don't even have proper clothes or even food to eat.


During my visit to Tibet, I came across a few.

Although most Tibetans are better off now due to the help from the Chinese Government, there are still others who are very poor.

It was a heart-wrenching sight.

Let us want less and give more.

When all our little good deeds come together, they can and will become a force that dispels disasters (whether natural or Human-create) and brings us blessings.

I loving and kind, You loving and kind.

Soon, the whole world will be loving and kind.

When everyone's mind is focused on being pure and good, the whole world will then be pure and good.

It's possible. Really.


Just as Venerable K Sri Dhammananda says,

"If on the other hand, man lives in accordance with this natural law, leads a righteous way of life, purifies the atmosphere through the merits of his virtues and radiates loving-kindness towards all other beings, he can change the atmosphere in order to bring about better results for the happiness of man."


As I mentioned in 'Competition and Consequences Part 2: Consequences' - http://maitre-light.blogspot.com/2007/06/competition-and-consequences-part-2.html,

"Negative emotions and thoughts gives out negative energy which affects the whole atmosphere."

Therefore, let us all guard our minds, thoughts and feelings constantly.

Let us do all the little good deeds we can, no matter how small or little it seem;

And let us all refrain from doing bad deeds, no matter how trivial they may be.




"We are what we think;

All that we are arises with our thoughts.

With our thoughts, we make the whole world."

- The Buddha




"The world is in a constant state of change and that changing world is situated right here in the body and minds of us all".

- Venerable Acariya Mun Bhuridatta Thera

"As long as people still value self-sacrifice and extend a helping hand to one another, life on this earth will always have meaning."

- Acariya Maha Boowa Nanasampanno




"Just as the light of a single candle can light up a million zillion other candles without itself being extinguished,

So the Kindness, Compassion, Love and Happiness of one, too, can spread to the whole world."




"What is an ocean made up of ?

Drops of water.

Without the drops of water,

There can be no ocean."



"May the light of this entry shines through and dispel away all the darkness in the world ........

Have a loving and kind New Year everyone !"


With all my love,

Maitre-Light